As I was doing my hair this afternoon and thinking about 100 things I want to get done today, all of a sudden an old poem popped into my head. My freshman year in high school I tried doing Poetry on the speech team (and failed miserably…extemp was where I found my calling) with a piece entitled “Carpe Diem” (yeah…pretty cliche). I think the combination of taking Latin class and watching “Dead Poet’s Society” inspired me. Of course, I couldn’t REALLY appreciate at 14 years old the idea of “seizing the day.”
The poem from that piece that popped into my head today is entitled “I Shall Not Pass This Way Again” and was written around 1900 by Eva Rose York. I’m sure at the time I understood it simply to mean to make the most of life. However, today I thought about it much more deeply. It’s about appreciating both the big and the little things. Helping everyone we can along the way. Understanding that seasons change.
Here is one of my favorite parts:
“And let no chance by me be lost
To kindness show at any cost.
I shall not pass this way again.
Then let me now relieve some pain,
Remove some barrier from the road,
Or brighten someone’s heavy load;
A helping hand to this one lend,
Then turn some other to befriend.”
This weekend will be filled with volunteer work at the school for my girls’ choirs. It will be exhausting. It will be stressful. Last year I ended up in tears halfway through the day. So why did thinking about all that is to come in the next 36 hours make me think about this poem?
In the end, I know that I will look back on these times with my kids and cherish them. I’ll miss not spending all day Saturday at the school. I’ll wish I was driving them all over the place while listening to them talk about their day. These are moments that I will never again have in my life and a path that I will not walk again once they have graduated.
Here’s the whole poem, if you are interested. It’s a little different than I remembered it, but the feeling I get in reading it is the same.
I Shall Not Pass This Way Again (1900) Eva Rose York
I shall not pass this way again—
Although it bordered be with flowers,
Although I rest in fragrant bowers,
And hear the singing
Of song-birds winging
To highest heaven their gladsome flight;
Though moons are full and stars are bright,
And winds and waves are softly sighing,
While leafy trees make low replying;
Though voices clear in joyous strain
Repeat a jubilant refrain;
Though rising suns their radiance throw
On summer’s green and winter’s snow,
In such rare splendor that my heart
Would ache from scenes like these to part;
Though beauties heighten,
And life-lights brighten,
And joys proceed from every pain,—
I shall not pass this way again.
Then let me pluck the flowers that blow,
And let me listen as I go
To music rare
That fills the air;
And let hereafter
Songs and laughter
Fill every pause along the way;
And to my spirit let me say:
“O soul, be happy; soon ’tis trod,
The path made thus for thee by God.
Be happy, thou, and bless His name
By whom such marvellous beauty came.”
And let no chance by me be lost
To kindness show at any cost.
I shall not pass this way again.
Then let me now relieve some pain,
Remove some barrier from the road,
Or brighten someone’s heavy load;
A helping hand to this one lend,
Then turn some other to befriend.
O God, forgive
That I now live
As if I might, sometime, return
To bless the weary ones that yearn
For help and comfort every day,—
For there be such along the way.
O God, forgive that I have seen
The beauty only, have not been
Awake to sorrow such as this;
That I have drunk the cup of bliss
Remembering not that those there be
Who drink the dregs of misery.
I love the beauty of the scene,
Would roam again o’er fields so green;
But since I may not, let me spend
My strength for others to the end,—
For those who tread on rock and stone,
And bear their burdens all alone,
Who loiter not in leafy bowers,
Nor hear the birds nor pluck the flowers.
A larger kindness give to me,
A deeper love and sympathy;
Then, O, one day
May someone say—
Remembering a lessened pain—
“Would she could pass this way again.”
Rena McDaniel says
My kids are grown and this made me just a little sad. You do have to enjoy every single minute you can with your kids because it does go way to fast.
Nancy Hill says
It seems like such a long time ago, that soccer, and girl scouts, and summer camps, drove my schedule into a frenzy that regularly pushed me beyond my limits, but in truth, less than a decade has passed since my daughter was a teen. I have to say I treasure those times, but also treasure hearing my daughter’s voice on the phone as she shares the latest triumphs or frustrations as she finishes up her year long externship as the last stage of grad school. If you are successful, they grow up, leave, and make their own way. Bittersweet, but mainly sweet.
michelle poston combs says
This is lovely. And a little sad. Completely relatable.
Lorraine says
Ah, my kids are teens and when I get irked I try to remember today is all I have and that all the tantrums and exhaustion that happened when they were little is something we laugh about now and even miss! Thank you for the post!
Connie Zimmermann says
I had just finished a post on Facebook acknowledging that today would have been my Grandmother’s 99th birthday. I was so full of thought and nostalgia and emotion and missing her very much. Then I read your post. Then I got to this part, “In the end, I know that I will look back on these times with my kids and cherish them. I’ll miss not spending all day Saturday at the school. I’ll wish I was driving them all over the place while listening to them talk about their day. These are moments that I will never again have in my life and a path that I will not walk again once they have graduated.” Then I cried.
The thoughts I was having were from the other perspective. The child who chatted away about their day to there loving parent (or grandparent), the young adult who chatted about high school or a first job, the adult who chatted about their career, or fiance, marriage and their own children.
Your role as that Motherly “ear” is invaluable. I’ve come to realize that having someone who loves to listen to your stories is priceless and one of the biggest losses when they are gone.
Thank you for this post today. It was perfect.
This is a song I wrote for my Mom (and Grandmother) and Sister, and I dedicate it to all loving Mother’s. You too Tricia Meyer.
https://youtu.be/BjtOlehXAhc
Tricia says
Oh, Connie. Now you made me cry, too!! That song is just lovely!! I can only hope that I will inspire my kids and (hopefully!) grandkids like that someday.